The Date From Hell?

First hump in a new relationship...

feeds@kickapps.com (jackson5) — Thu, 21 May 2009 14:27:21 PST

I have been dating this guy for about 4 months now. Great guy, love everything about him for the most part. No guy is perfect ;o) We met on Match actually, which was new for me. We went on a couple dates, things moved pretty quickly, but we both seemed to enjoy each others company and have a great time together. Out of the blue, his ex-girlfriend called. He basically put the brakes on with us, and started talking to her again. However, he kept coming back to me after a few days. I know I should have ended this act with him the first time, but I kept accepting him back. After the third time he did it, I told him I was done and this is the last time. He was accepting of this and said it was over with his ex. That was two months ago. We have been fine since.
Lately I started smoking again, I hadn't since college, but with all this stress with him and our relationship, I picked it up again. He didn't know I smoked, or have been. He asked me about it once right after we...

Another online dating story

feeds@kickapps.com (bluejeanie) — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 23:18:10 PST

I met a guy online in October, since then we chatted 2-3 X a week in which he asked me out twice for coffee & once for drinks. I had refused at the start because I wasn't sure, then agreed to go for a drink with him but couldn't set up a time that worked for both of us before he left for his Xmas vacation. (3 weeks) In that time on his vacation we talked almost daily for a few hours at a time. We had plans to get together as soon as he returned. Well we chatted online when he returned & his response was I have plans for Friday & probably Sat. So he blows me off when he has been actively pursuing me for 3 months, I just don't get it. Why would you invest the time if you were not interested???? I have talked to him twice online since that both times initiated by him, the second time it was almost a repeat performance except come over now & when I said no & wanted to make plans the response was , "you are such a planner" . The third time I was...

Just wanted some feedback

feeds@kickapps.com (ladydi7328) — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 21:39:51 PST

We had only been going out for about one month, so I am not devastated. However, I felt compelled to get some feedback on the subject.

On our second date, he started to get very hot and heavy. I am not the type of woman who gets that intense on just the second date but there was a special added circumstance. I had just had surgery to remove a noncancerous mass from around my right ovaries. Everything down there still isn't back to normal and getting too intense just isn't physically an option yet. I explained the situation and he seemed to understand.

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What's the next step...

feeds@kickapps.com (marchingb) — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 14:41:53 PST

Hi guys, I'm very new to this whole dating thing, so this is probably a very green question, but here it is.

I've got this guy who I'm almost positive is interested in me as more than a friend. We met by chance at a restaurant about a month ago, had been talking online a bit, then recently a lot more, and then he asked me to go to a movie with him. I wasn't sure if he was looking for a buddy or a possible girlfriend, but last week we went out to lunch together (my suggestion), and he's been texting me a lot ever since. I've been trying to follow Mimi's advice and remain polite but indifferent, and it's worked like a charm to draw him to me. The movie's at the end of this week, but I'm kind of hoping we could hang out before then, as we go to the same university, and our dorms are right next to each other. It just seems kind of odd to me that he's texting me so much, kind of offhandedly suggesting that we get together sometime,...

Hello...needing some advice :)

feeds@kickapps.com (rocketman) — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 03:57:25 PST

I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I am 42 y/o wm and I the girl I have always loved is in my life once again. She has always loved me too it seems, the problem is that we both went different directions in life.

Here's the kicker. We love each other...we really do, but we just don't enjoy the same lifestyle. She really is a sweetheart, but she is just ALOT more outging than I am. She loves anything to do with water, she's a bar hopper to some extent...she just wants to live life at full throttle all the time. I'm the type who is pretty content with life, laid back and enjoy smelling the roses.

Well, if you haven't guessed already, she dumped me a while back for a guy who does a lot of the same things she does. The really do just have more in common. He dumped her for a few days and she came back...we had some really good sex for a while (which she wasn't getting from him apparently...lol), we talked a lot and I am more than...

how can you tell what he wants

feeds@kickapps.com (lanardh) — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 18:36:01 PST

i met this guy online, we spoke and went out for New years, we hit it off. we went out a few days later and had a great time. I went over his house the next day ended up having sex with him. I wish i didnt on the third date but i did. he does call me a few times a week and says he want to see me. H came over that next week and i told him i didnt want to sleep with him, he seemed ok with it. he still called but he will go two days not calling then call, is that normal??? we went out again last night and slept together again. He is also very busy and told me he did that on purpose because hes alone and now needs to reverse it. he runs his business during the day and coaches volleyball almost every evening, his day does not end until like 9pm. he has daughters that do not live with him and takes them to lunch or dinner a few times a week if he can and most weekends he has volleyball tournaments...he is an extremely busy man. whish is ok because im busy with three kids of my own. but...

advice for a married sister

feeds@kickapps.com (kathymencel2008) — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 15:08:50 PST

I need your help in what to do and what to say:
My older sister got into some situation and I am trying to make her understand her mistake however I am also confused.
She had some problems with her husband about 8 years ago, her husband was having an affair, she waited until the affair was over, however after that happen, she felt not so sure about her relationship( about 2 years after it happened), Then she met a really nice guy, who was indeed a really good potential "stepfather" for her kids, they really liked him. Meanwhile her husband knowing that she started to contact the new guy, looked for a new girl and started to live with her. My sister did not like that and after a while tried to get her husband back, he just lied to her and again went back to the new girl, My sister still seeing the other guy spent 7 more months with him but again went back to look for her husband , this time she succeed( do not ask me why) and then she told the new guy that she...

He disappeared and now he's back

feeds@kickapps.com (missmeliss25) — Sat, 29 Nov 2008 19:26:29 PST

Help a girl out! I went on a date with a man a few months ago and it went very well! After texting back and forth for a few days after, he fell of the face of the Earth. I let it go. didn't call him, didn't contact him, and didn't hear a peep from him. The other day I sent out a mass "Happy Thanksgiving" text message which I included him in on. To my surprise, he contacted me back, and has expressed interest in seeing me again. I have my apartment to myself all weekend, and he replied, "Want some company?" I told him I had plans during the day, and he said, "How about at night?" I replied, "You can call me and maybe we can get together "

How do I handle this from here?

Best,
Melissa, New York, 25

Help me out

feeds@kickapps.com (crest09) — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 23:47:13 PST

Hello everyone,

I'm on the online dating and I have browsed a number of guys that I like until I came across this one person that I find totallly interested in so I viewed his profile and we have so much similarities: looking for future "wifey" candidate that must love God and clarification and he's a Christian man so I initiated the contact by flirting with him. I got a response back saying "Yes" he's interested and wanted to hear from me. we chatted for a bit but still would love to know more about me. So then he said we need to set a good time schedule so that we won't keep missing each other whether we online and I told him I feel you so it's a 7 hour difference from where I'm at. I'm currently overseas and he's at the states. He gave me his email and Y! messenger so we can continue chatting. Up until then , I logged on and I saw him online. So I got the talk first to say a friendly "hello" and he said...

Different Life Stages???

feeds@kickapps.com (Kimmy) — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 14:42:01 PST

I'm not one to ask for relationship advice very often, but I am REALLY conflicted on this one. So here it goes: I am a 28 year old single women, into my career and have lots of fun dating. I recently met and have been out with a great guy, he has all the qualities I'm looking for and we seem like such a good match. But of course there has to be an issue.

He is a 23 year old student. Before all you "age is only a number" people chime in I want to make it clear that although I can't say I'm completley comfortable with the 5 year difference, this isn't really an age issue for me. Its about us being at different stages of our lives. If I would have meet him a year ago I probably wouldn't feel as strongly about this but I've recently been looking to meet someone with whom I can have a serious relationship, settle down, live together and yes eventually get married.

I feel like at 23 that stuff is going to be a long way off for him,...

ERRR!!! Online Dating

feeds@kickapps.com (lamb) — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 20:29:31 PST

I've been on a dating site for a few weeks and was not impressed with the outcome.
For one I hate ONLINE dating. Anyways unexpectedly I receive a mail from a gentleman here
his exact e-mail >>>>>>>>>

Wow!
You are truly stunning & Beautiful!
Hope this message finds you well. I am new to online dating and have been on
this site for about 3 wks and seldom visit, but want to let you know that I
admire your profile a great great deal and very interested in meeting you. My
name is .... and I am a Software Engineer and Computer Scientist by profession.
I describe myself as an attractive, loyal, honest, intelligent, ambitious and
decent man. I am not trying to sell...

She's married i'm lost

feeds@kickapps.com (helpmeout) — Sat, 23 Aug 2008 20:45:02 PST

OK need advice hopefully not too many look bad on me. I have had this friend for years and she is married to an ex friend (he screwed me over multiple times) anyhow since she had problems I would listen to her. I let it be known how I felt for her but I never made a move. One night we were hanging and she kissed me. And you can guess where it went from there. I tried not to but we all know urges and I had been single for over a year prior. Well that was about a year ago. Recently I got tired of hearing the complaints and the hurting on my part. I tried to give everything for her to see a way out of her situation. Well I kind of backed her in a corner to make it come out and she chose him "no surprise right". She said she needs to try and make it work but doesnt see it happening. Well since then I have tried to slowly lean off of her but at the same time. I'm am still getting the I love you I miss you and she is still tryin to kiss me. We see each other at least once or...

New to Dating

feeds@kickapps.com (KitCat) — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 08:25:50 PST

Hi everyone...My husband of 13 years left me 3 years ago. I think I'm finally ready to start dating. However, I've never really "dated". The first date I went on with my ex was our senior prom way back in 1989. I'm scared silly to put myself out there, but lonely enough to take a chance. Any advice?

Does age matter a lot?

feeds@kickapps.com (zvancouver) — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 17:08:06 PST

I met a guy recently and we had three very hot dates. we are kind of crazy about each other. but i am 35 and he is 29. Actually I am looking for serious relationship, can we have any possible future? should we just stop it?

Thanks a million

Fallen Prey to a Couger Hunter

feeds@kickapps.com (AV8RFOX) — Sat, 01 Dec 2007 17:10:29 PST

I have recently fallen prey to a man who is 18 years younger than myself. me-42 him-24. He is the son of my coworker. I have known him for a few years very casually. I have always admired his maturity for his age as well as his attractiveness. Recently, I had become elusive to any social outings because of my diligent studies to acheive a degree. He had let me know that when I was graduated, he wanted to celebrate with me. He was very persistant in the matter. I thought that would be fun, so I suggested some ideas that would take us out on the town and in public. He suggested cooking dinner for me at my place. It wasn't my first response to be excited. It actually felt awkward and uncomfortable. But I thought to myself, "What could happen?" We enjoyed each others company for several hours and after a long filling meal, we decided to dance. He wanted to learn a few swing dance moves, so I taught him. After a few dances he suggested that we kiss. I backed off and said I felt...

What to do?

feeds@kickapps.com (MintWyn) — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 23:02:45 PST

We have male relationship coaches (like John Alanis - "The King") telling other men to let the women come to them. And we have female coaches (such as Mimi Tanner, Amy Waterman, Marie Forleo) and even male ones (e.g.Christian Carter) telling other women to almost always err on the side of letting the men come to you. But putting 2 and 2 together, if attractive men and women both follow the advice to let the other side come to them, how can men and women get together at all in the first place?

This is how this question is relevant in my life: There is a man that I see weekly on a professional basis (he teaches me a musical instrument) that I have expressed an attraction to, and he has verbally reciprocated that the attraction is mutual (he said that he finds me to be very pretty, he told me a bit about himself, asked me a bit about me, said "we should have you along to the concerts" and his exact words at the end of the conversation were: "I've...

I want kids, he doesnt....

feeds@kickapps.com (tojox) — Sat, 14 Jul 2007 02:01:36 PST

6 months nearly dating, and "the talk" came out (i was clear from the begining) He told me you deserve the truth... You want kids and I enjoy so much being with you, but i dont feel i want any more kids (he has 2 from his previous marriage)
I started to cry, but then said that i understand him but choose another thing, and thank him for telling me so. Still feel like dumped, and dont know much what to do when he calls... i miss him
Any advice?

Help

feeds@kickapps.com (cnn) — Sat, 14 Jul 2007 00:16:30 PST

I need some advice, I have been dating a married man for over a year now. Im in love with him, I know what im doing is wrong, and I want so much to get out of this relationship but I dont how. PLEASE HELP

Should she bring her cousin out of Frumpdom?

feeds@kickapps.com (mimiflirt) — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 10:32:45 PST

Dear readers,

What is your advice for "Amy" and for her cousin?
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Hi Mimi,

I know you get tons of emails per day, but I have a
question I hope you can help me with. My cousin, who's
in her early 30s, is very overweight. When we were little,
she was the cutest and prettiest of all of us. Over the
years, she has gained and gained and gained. She refuses
to wear makeup of any sorts, and refuses to get a decent
hairstyle. I guess she thinks the perfect guy will want
her for who she is.

How do I approach her to tell her she needs to change
some stuff about herself. I know the male "eye" is looking
for "something" that stands out. All that stands out with
her, other than that she dresses nicely for work, is that
she is big. She is an attractive girl, but needs to accentuate
features, and needs to lose that weight... she had one "sort...

should I date a friend's old flame?

feeds@kickapps.com (Unregistered(d)) — Thu, 12 Jul 2007 11:01:32 PST

I have not dated a guy who seems this affectionate and passionate with me in a very long time. We have tons in common and he is so handsome to me even though he is shorter than me. He seems confident enough to be with me too. I have a girlfriend I started hanging out with at the end of April who I go to church with. She has kept trying to be friends with a guy she had dated who also attends our church. (they were never boyfriend and girlfriend or had sex) She introduced me to him more formally even though we knew each other from church very superficially. We all started to hang out with all our mutual friends and have done a lot of partying and fun outings together including play coed sports and hit the beaches and chicago street fests and concerts over this spring and now summer. We have all had a blast although she wanted him the whole time. He has claimed to be over it since February and has not acted like anything more than a friend to her although I think she...