He's Married or Otherwise Involved

Pictures sent on cellphone

feeds@kickapps.com (Izzypop) — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 16:24:14 PST

I was having a long distant affair with someone and he wanted me to send so pretty personal pictures of myself to him, and I did. I have never done anything like that before. Were not really that personal anymore, we only talk ever so often. I want to ask him if he still has the pictures of me on his phone and if so I want him to delete them before somebody else see them. I don't want to upset him because I'm hoping maybe we can get a lot closer again, I really care about him. I was wondering if anyone can help me think of a way to ask him and have him delete them if he hasn't already with out making it sound so final. Please give me some advice.

Falling apart

feeds@kickapps.com (Pumaeyes) — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 06:57:15 PST

NA..........................

please help

feeds@kickapps.com (wonkey alice) — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 22:20:37 PST

Hi....Have moved in with a lovely gentleman ... but my main worry is evertime we go some where or everytime we do somethink he says i done this with my ex or we went here months ago or we had this for dinner he keeps saying things as we go my other partner ...id rather not know as it hurts have told him that im me im here she s not all i cant get my head around it is why bring this up all the time??

the othe woman

feeds@kickapps.com (theotherwoman) — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 23:23:53 PST

I hadn't seen this guy for TEN YEARS and yes in high school we had a little crush on each other...I met up wth him 2 weeks ago and we have been seeing each other in secret...He has a partner and I am married (recently seperated) the thing is (and yes I know cheating is bad) it was a bit of fun to start but suddenly I have had feelings come into play...

I am unsure how he feels as I made it quite clear that it was a ll a bit of fun and nothing else from the start and well we get along great everything there for a relationship you know.

We talked about relationships and the like when we first started to talk and I know that he hasn't cheated before...And Yes I believe him... I have asked him why this is different and he just tells me he doesn't know what it is about me that he is attracted to exactly he just is and that he wants me....

I have visited them as a couple and well he seems...

Hi Help Please

feeds@kickapps.com (baby203) — Thu, 18 Oct 2007 22:03:45 PST

Hi, Maybe you all can help me. There is this guy that I am VERY attracted to. And I guess he is to me. I have known him for a while now, kinda grew up together. But anyway so we start this thing, he asks me for my number and I give it to him, I know he has a girl friend and so I ask about her, He says he don't wanna be with her but wants to breake it off with her easy because he dont wanna hurt her feelings, So I have been going to see him like every now and then, He gets a job at the local market < which I am in ALL the time seems we run out of stuff alot ( I have a 18 year old little bro) Now he is telling me that it is kinda scaring him... I dont know if he was playing or not... I hope he was but I dont know.... he plays like that all the time telling me stuff like that or making fun of my clothes and music just to turn arround and say somthing like I like you... I dont know how to take it what do I do?? HELP and what do I do about him not wanting to hurt the g/f feelings? Do...

help me please

feeds@kickapps.com (gaargi) — Tue, 10 Jul 2007 00:43:09 PST

Pardon me, my english is not good because I am form India.

My marriage is a modern arrange marriage. I mean before we meet each other my husbands father met me. He came to India for finding a partner for his son. So He came to my home and did some chat with my parents and me. He liked me (don't know why) and then after going back to Newzealand he reffer me to his son (my husband) and then
on my husbands request we both started chatting each other on mobile. Though my english is not great (whereas my husband understands english only and not hindi) I can somehow make people understand my sentences.

I told my husband about my english condition and he mentioned that he is not under any force for marriage with me.

After 6 days of marriage I found that that He was ALLready MArried Twice first of his wife was australian and a singer in choirs an also a solo performer. Second was american and half indian. I also came to know that he had lots of girlfriends with all...

Jason W. Ward cheating husband of Marcia Landers Ward

feeds@kickapps.com (Victoria Jennings Secret) — Mon, 12 Mar 2007 18:59:34 PST

Just tell her the truth about us and set her and me free. Poor marcia.

WHAT DOES SEPERATED REALLY MEAN

feeds@kickapps.com (NIKKI4LIFE) — Sun, 27 Aug 2006 21:03:26 PST

HI GUYS. THIS IS REALLY PAINFUL FOR ME SINCE I AM IN LOVE WITH A GUY WHO SAYS HE IS SEPERATED. WELL HE IS HAS BROUGHT LOVE BACK TO MY LIFE. HE HAS GIVEN ME A REASON TO SHARE MY SMILE.WE MET 4 MONTHS AGOAND I FELL FOR HIM INSTANLY. WELL HE IS LEGALLY MARRIED. HE TOLD ME HE IS SEPERATED. HE SAYS HIS WIFE DONT LIVE IN THE SAME HOUSE. BUT HER THINGS ARE THERE BY THAT I MEAN CLOTHES NOT MUCH BUT SOME. HE SAYS SHE COMES OVER TO DO HER LAUNDRY. SHE CANT DRIVE SO HE TAKES HER SHOPPING. HE WANTS ME TO LIVE IN A FANTASY WORLD THAT ONE DAY THINGS WILL GET BETTER. I MEAN I SEE HIM ANYTIME I WANT. BUT I AM YOUNG AND I WOULD LIKE TO GET MARRIED NOT JUST WAIT IN VAIN ON A MAN WHO IS NOT GOING TO BE SINGLE. WHAT DO YOU GUYS MAKE OF THIS HE IS ASKING ME TO BE PATIENT GIVE ME UR ADVISE PLEASE

I met a new guy but.....

feeds@kickapps.com (cluelessaboutguys) — Mon, 31 Jul 2006 11:23:59 PST

I met a new guy online a few weeks ago. We talked online every evening for about 4 weeks minus a couple weeks he was at camp with his students. We met and went out a couple of times and had a pretty good time. He is a little older than me and is divorced 2 years after a 20 year marriage. He left his wife because she spent a lot of money. This bothers me because I too have ran up my credit cards and they won't be paid off for years, if ever. I don't make enough to pay anymore than the minimun and must use them constantly to buy groceries and stuff. It bothers me when a man divorces his wife for any reason as it is suppposed to be for better or worse and a vow before God. I also don't like that he seems to be a little cheap. We went to an amusement park and we rode nothing and had nothing to eat. It was an all day event and I about starved. I am old fashioned and believe that when a guy invites you out, if he is a gentleman he will pay. He claimed on his ad to mad 75K but it looks...

I've lost the last good thing in my life

feeds@kickapps.com (cluelessaboutguys) — Thu, 27 Jul 2006 14:11:12 PST

I have been having a relationship with a married man for over a year. I have had a rough year as I have lost my relationship with my family and daughter, my job, my friends, and moved into a scary neighborhood. My lover was the last thing I had that was famiiar. He sent me a letter the other day saying we shouldn't see each other anymore. He was trying to be a better man and decided to be faithful to his wife and practice integrity. That is all good I guess but I can't help but feel a loss. He was my first lover in over a decade. I have met many guys online and had the one date and never heard from them again. I have met a guy who I have went out with twice and he is nice and everything, but his is cheap. He should have a good income but he lives in a small apartment and when he took me out, I got one item and a drink off the value menue. We went to a amusement park (a free admission one) and rode no rides and we were there from 3-8 pm and we had no dinner although there were alot...

check this jerk out

feeds@kickapps.com (whattodo) — Sat, 06 May 2006 15:16:19 PST

Here's the deal....

An ex pursued me for the past 3 months, he initially said he hadn't 100% broken up with his then girlfriend but was only seeing her once a week if that and that he made the biggest mistake of his life by allowing himself to lose me (the first month or so I played REALLY hard to get then gave in (I really did love him).

After a painful month and a half of what seemed like some serious mind games he finally said he had completely ended the other relationship and all he wanted in the world was to make me happy and build our future together. This is a very wealthy man who promised me the world.....and I mean the world starting with swaring he would never ever lie to me again, just wanted to make me and his kids happy to offering me hundreds of thousands of dollars to start my own business, to being here with me 3 - 5 nights a week and speaking up to 10 times a day....he has his children VERY often as his ex wife travels up to 20 days a month for...

Is a decision really that hard?

feeds@kickapps.com (rommytize) — Fri, 14 Apr 2006 12:32:25 PST

Hi ladies, I need some wise words.

I've met the man I thought to be my soulmate. He is truly everything I've ever wanted in a man.
There's a catch though, on our first date he asked my every imaginable question about my self and told me all about himself, including the fact that he has an ex he cant be with for various reasons and that they are just "good" friends.
About a month into our relationship, he tells me she was pushing hard and is back in his life, he however did not want to let me go, the more distance I kept the harder he pursued me.
I told him I was not comfortable with the fact that he is seeing her as well, he said he will look into it, but nothing happened.
Although he kept taking me out and we did alot together, I found it unfair that he never introduced me to his friends, family, or colleagues although he's met mine.
The last straw for me came when I heard from a friend that he still takes her out to all his important work...

The Crush

feeds@kickapps.com (Primmies) — Sat, 01 Apr 2006 14:00:42 PST

Hi - I'm new here, but what a great place! This is exactly what I was looking for.

I would appreciate any insights you can give me - straight talk is fine. Anyways, here's my story:

I'm an eBay seller and one of my buyers and I got to emailing each other about the transaction. I thought it would end there, but it has not. This was 2 months ago. After about a month of emailing each other back and forth (maybe once a day) I liked this guy so much that I started to develop a crush on him. We had a ton in common and he was so nice, and soooo funny. God, we laugh! So in one of my emails I said to him that it sounded like he was married (because he hadn't had directly said so), but that I was developing a crush on him and that maybe we shouldn't write anymore. I told him that I knew that marriages were hard enough to hold together these days and I didn't want to cause any trouble. He wrote back to me saying that yes, he was married, and was married to an incredible woman...

HELP!!!! Dana are you out there?

feeds@kickapps.com (Nikki) — Mon, 20 Mar 2006 15:06:58 PST

HI,
A few weeks ago I wrote a post about my involvement with a married man. I received some really good advice. So, I have been trying to forget the married guy and work at my marriage. It has been great untill...
I saw the married guy Sunday. I see him regularly. He came into the room just to see me. I know he did. I almost feel intimitated by making eye contact becasue the connection and chemistry is so strong I think everyone in the room will pick up on it. I think he feels the same.
So we briefly spoke. Now I can't get him off my mind. I want to spend time with him. IT seems as though my feelings are changing. See, I blew it with this man. We were communicationg and began to act so needy and clingly. Ww ended the relationship. About 3 weeks ago he started showing interest again.Dana, I took your advice and acted friendly, smiley, not over emotional. I have not called him, but I want to so bad. I really want to get to know him better, and I am convinced that he feels the...

He hasn't broken up with her yet

feeds@kickapps.com (Adelatus) — Sat, 18 Mar 2006 20:57:43 PST

About six weeks ago I met someone wonderful while working as volunteers at a natural disaster. It was one of those amazing experiences where the sparks flew from the moment we laid eyes on each other, even though we never spoke until the next day. We were intensely aware of each other the whole time, and for some reason he just kept jumping out of the crowd of 500+ men all the time! Everytime I looked up, there he was. Days two and three we had long conversations when opportunities arose. Just before our unit was sent home on the last day, I got his number, and we'd agreed to catch up at some stage.

A week later, I messaged him and we've been seeing each other on a weekly basis since. The chemistry between us is amazing and we both knew right from the first date that we wanted to be together.

The problem is that he has a girlfriend who he lives with. He told me this right from the first day we caught up, and has been very open and honest about everything. He said he's...

i'm getting used to him

feeds@kickapps.com (merryminty) — Thu, 16 Mar 2006 13:30:53 PST

There's this colleague of mine who is married. we've known each other for almost 2 years now and been good friends. he is one of the very few men who've had a positive influence in my life. our relationship has been platonic throughout though i could always sense he had attraction for me. other people used to pair us off because of our strong connection but i would always nip such talk in the bud. he however seemed unaffected. There were times i would tell him to stop talking to me or visiting my cabin as i am very image conscious.
but now it seems i've gotten used to having him around as it makes me feel very nice and secure. he recently mentioned about problems in his marriage and this got me all worried. i can't deny that i've started to care for him.
he makes it a point to visit me atleast once daily and we end up having long talks about our respective lives. well i am aware that i'm getting used to him and want to stop it here in a sweet manner. he has also helped me in...

Update

feeds@kickapps.com (Nikki) — Thu, 16 Mar 2006 12:17:44 PST

Hi,

I am writing in regard to a previous post. I wrote asking your advice about an issue that I had with a married man.
I really want to first say that the psychology of relationships really makes a difference. I have been reading your posts and doing some soul searching and other readings. I have been enlightened.
I have decided to let the "married man" go. I don't want to have an affair with a man that will never be mine, and I want to respect myself and be true to myslef. My fellings for this man may have been real. There was passion. There was physical and intellectual attraction. However, there are also lots of other things to consider: the consquences. But, enough about that.
I am really going to give it the best shot I have with my husband who is devoted to me. There are things that I love about him: he loves bubble baths; he cries at weddings; he is sensitive to the emotions and feelings of others; he is commited and faithful. If I lose that him, I...

Why is he so scared? (see the other section by this name)

feeds@kickapps.com (BebeGulia) — Sun, 12 Mar 2006 18:52:52 PST

(This is a great post; please find it in the other section by this name, under 'He's Married or Otherwise Involved'. I'm trying to keep the posts together. Pretty Tulips, please repeat your response below and move it to the other location. Thanks!)

Mimi

Why is he so scared?

feeds@kickapps.com (BebeGulia) — Sun, 12 Mar 2006 18:38:04 PST

I was dating man who promised me he would get a divorce, but the only stipulation is that I have to continue our intimate relationship and be faithful.

I know it sounds dumb, but the reason is so that he believes I really want to be with him. Also I would have to move into an apartment or house with him before we get married to each other.

I suggested that he get divorced, then we continue dating, and after some time decide if we want to get married. He says at his age, he is almost 50, he has a lot to lose if I do not marry him or give him a definite commitment that I would marry him. I asked him how can he live a life in fear like that, and all he could say is that when you are older people take advantage of you and manipulate you.

I stopped seeing him because I do not want to go about this his way, it feels way too bad. He wants me to come back. I said only if he gets a divorce. He said he would if I give him a marriage committment. I said I could not...

Having a discreet relationship with a married man

feeds@kickapps.com (cluelessaboutguys) — Sat, 11 Mar 2006 14:40:22 PST

I am curious to what everyone thinks about a situation i have been in for about a year.

I am looking for a man to spend my life with meaning marriage. I am not willing to be stuck in a living together relationship. Last year i met a married man online. I chose to get involved with him because i had been saving myself for mr right for too long. I have made the mistake in the past of getting to close to the guy and then the relationship turned strictly sexual. I do not want to make that mistake again but know that i am human and could not go on being celibate to i found a the right guy, which could take a long time.

The guy I'm seeing discreetly comes over every week and makes love to me better than anyone . He is not a 15 minute guy, more like 2 hours. He has fulfilled most of my fantasies without me even telling him. He is passionate, gentle, and doesn't turn cold afterward. He is 14 years older than me and we have children around the same age. We email each other...