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what have I done wrong.... need ladies feedback on this one... gf isn't coming back

feeds@kickapps.com (m249) — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 18:32:47 PST

Hey everyone, my relationship hit a brick wall today, I need some honest-to-god truths here, I don't know where to turn to except for this forum... cuz I love my gf the dearest but I'm afraid this time things got a little too ugly.

So here is the jist of what happened,

After some cuddling and fiddling, I realized that we could have more fun if she 'trimmed' the bush a little bit so I can get more access.

I know it's an awkward topic to bring up, because I didn't want her to think that I find any part of her body imperfect. So I was very cautious, and I said to her if I could ask her something nicely without her getting mad (I know, but I couldn't think of any other way to open this up )

I went on saying it's beautiful and I wanted to taste her but things get in the way, maybe she could trim the hair a...

Bothersome situation - would appreciate some help!

feeds@kickapps.com (Joe25) — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 17:35:13 PST

First off, I'm not quite sure that everything I'm going to say pertains to the matter - I'm using this to find advice as much as just to vent some feelings I haven't told anybody else. Thanks for your patience in advance.
So.. where to start?
Some characteristics: I'm 18, I live in France, I'm in my first year at law school, hoping to be a diplomat, or eventually a lawyer later. Decent at school, although that's only because I'm not very inspired by my work - I think once I get a job I'll be far more achieving, since it should be something interesting. I'm pretty smart, trying to get fit through an exercise program that I've dubbed "I hate my body" (I weigh about 84kg, hoping to get to 75 or so). I like to read, watch tv, play some video games, listen to music (I'm also trying to learn to play piano, to sing and would eventually take guitar lessons). I play chess, have long hair tied in a ponytail, don't drink too much, I'm nice, always ready to help folk... I'm somewhat...

What should i do?

feeds@kickapps.com (Mhp) — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 03:48:52 PST

Hi,
I am a first year university student and live on residence. Over the last few months I have been becoming really good friends with a girl in my building. We have a really good platonic friendship, but she ended up breaking up with her boyfriend and one night we were watching a movie, but after it was finished ended up staying up all night talking in bed. The next morning and most of the afternoon we slept together (just slept non-sexually) and cuddled a bit. The next night I went up to her room and we did the same thing again. I don`t know if this sleeping together thing is just for mutual comfort, or if there`s something more there. It`s kinda wierd because when we are together during the day in a group of friends she will act like there is nothing happening between us, when I think there might be. For instance when we were in a group of friends we all went to the movies...

ex girlfriend help

feeds@kickapps.com (clarkey10986) — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 15:11:15 PST

ok so i split up from my ex about a year and 4 months ago, i have had a couple of dates since then but had never really gotten over my ex.
she wanted me back to begin with and i told her to leave me alone seeing as both my aunt and grandmother had passed away within weeks of eachother and i needed to be alone, she found her strength during this period and by the time i realised that i had made a horrible mistake it was too late. we had been together for 2 years and i beleive whilst we were together she would have done anything for me. I spoke to her again about 4 months ago when she got back from a holiday in jamaica and i found out she met someone there. since then i still have had no luck in moving on at all, i dont seem to stop regretting me decision and move on. about a month ago i sent her an sms asking for one more chance but she told me that she was seeing this guy from holiday still. Today i bumped into her and her mum in a store in our town, ( i used to get on with her...

Lost my Wife :(

feeds@kickapps.com (WalkofShame) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 17:06:10 PST

Hello guys im really hoping I can get some help here, I have really noone else to talk with about this.

Me and my wife have been in a relationship for about 1 1/2 years, we have been living together for about a year and finally decided to get married in October. All throughout our relationship we have always argued, mainly due to my jealousy issues that I have. While I have never caught her with another man or anything of that nature I am extremly jealous and see things often times when there is probably nothing there. That has lead me to constantly batter her about everything sadly.

Anyways to make a long story short we have broken up twice before over these issues, but I always tell here im going to change and get her to come back. And sadly I never really change:( I wish I was one of those people that could wait untill I actually had some REAL proof before I started to accuse people but sadly (for me) that is not who and what I am....

Need your help ladies

feeds@kickapps.com (fins25) — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 19:31:01 PST

Okay will try and be brief. In a relationship for 2 years, became engaged, very quick, passionate, intimate rel'p. We both were sure we had found our "true love" in each other. Looking back we were probably both craving this type of relationship. She had difficulty with my 16 year old daughter, basically asked me to "choose" between her and my daughter. Anyway will get to my question, a month before our relationship finally broke up for good and have had no contact since, my fiancee, at the time, slept with another man. This guy had asked her out several times, she had said she viewed him more as a "companion" just didn't have the same chemistry as we did. Said she finally decided to go out with this fellow, our relationship was breaking down somewhat prior to this, to be in a rebound relationship so she could forget about me. This fellow also has an 11 year old daughter which according to her "adores her" and thus is seems more...

Whats happening?

feeds@kickapps.com (Billy) — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 07:59:53 PST

Hiya, I'm married to my wife for six years. We've two beautiful children, aged 5 & 2. We both work. My wife is employed full time 9-5. Up till recently we've had an excellent love life. Lots of laughs. The kids keep us busy and we've had a number of bugs ......colds, sick tummies etc.....so sleep is at a premium. Of late our sex life has ceased. We've gone from making love very regularly to currently once a month. Its now been five weeks. I've tried to talk with my wife about this and she tells me she's tired, has a tummy bug or having her period. I've made it pretty obvious I'd like to spend time together and suggested going to bed early but the telly or facebook get her attention. This has been going on now for four maybe five months. I've been very patient. However, I becoming very frustrated with the situation. For a week or so now I've made no physical advances. Being rejected three or four times hurt. Not sure what to do next....

Recent Breakup

feeds@kickapps.com (xJCx) — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 13:25:31 PST

My girlfriend and I had been dating for about 2 and a half years and about 2 weeks ago we broke up. A week later (wednesday) we had'nt spoke or anything n at evening service she asked to sit next to me and I said sure. For the rest of the sevice we didnt speak and before i leave i gave her a hug yet still no words exchanged. Later that night she called me and we talked about why she had broken up with me. Then the next day we just kinda txt back and forth and I go and have lunch with her, very little talking, we mostly held hands and looked into one anothers eyes, later that night she stoped outside my house and i went and met her and we just sit in her vehicle together and it leads to us making out for about 20 min. and when has to leave she tells me "i love you" , the next day (friday)all through out the day we txt one another, have lunch together, and later that night go to a small party together, and she txts me, remember were broken up though. well when i...

When is enough enough?

feeds@kickapps.com (reincarnateray) — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 15:48:44 PST

Hi. I have been married to my wife for three years now and we have two small boys. I run my own real estate/construction businesses and serve in the army national guard. Since we have been together my wife has lied about money and the situation at home whenever I am away, causing very negative results for the business that supports our family. I had actually attempted leave her after advice from women with alterior motives last december, but ended up staying trying to work things out. I left for deployment this march to afghanistan and told her this was the last chance. She told me not to worry and things would be different and to have faith. I checked the bank accoun about three weeks ago and saw there was no money. She told me she spent some, but the rest was at the house in check form for the down payment on a house. She apologized and told me again not to worry. I checked last week and again no money, and she admitted she also spent the money that she had in checks. I return...

Wife left me 4 weeks ago after 9.5 years of Marriage

feeds@kickapps.com (joe) — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 16:05:37 PST

There is obviously more to it (9.5 years). But I will start with why I'm here. My wife left me 4 weeks ago(Sept 16th), took my 2 teenage step daughters and even took the dog. We have owned a house for the first time for the past 2.5 years now. She was laid off in July of this year and had a hard time with the unemployment office. Finally was rectified. She has had massive allergies and had dificulty getting an appointment for an allergist (took 2 months).Anyways things were a little difficult and I was no help. I was looking just to maintain the status quo. We got into a big fight (Sunday Sept 13)and everything that I have ever done wrong in the marraige came to light. She said she has had enough. I backed off. I new she was serious. I apologized. She told me that she would give me 30 days to straighten out. I said ok. monday and tuesday was ok she went shopping like normal and evrything seemed ok. I was suppose to go to the job service with her on tuesday but could't make...

Is this cheating...?

feeds@kickapps.com (laxboss13) — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 11:08:46 PST

Hi, I'm trying to get a new perspective on a problem that my gf and I had. Here's the story:

I am 23 she is 20. We live about two hours apart. We have been dating for 6 months now and things are getting serious. We have been talking about her moving in with me.

Two weeks ago she went to tailgate with a couple of her girlfriends. She ended up getting drunk and sleeping in the same bed as another older guy (29). She says that she meant to tell me the day after but that she forgot... I just found out about it this past weekend. She swears nothing happened and that it was just a place for the two of them to sleep.

I consider this cheating. Sleeping in the same bed...

should I be jealous over her sex aid

feeds@kickapps.com (randbman) — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 16:08:37 PST

My girlfriend uses a dildo to reach $%%++% because she says, in the past, male partners have not been able (with only a very few exceptions) to give her an $%%++%. Like many toys of this nature, this thing is hung like a horse. I know she loves me and I can satisfy her in other ways, but there's no way I can compete with the size and "features" of this factory-made love machine. Should I just pleasure her my own way and forget about her toy.

Confused

feeds@kickapps.com (Vman) — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 18:27:46 PST

Ok, here is the deal.

I am a 34 year old man. I still think of myself as that 15 year old idiot that I was 19 years ago, but the fact of the matter is I am 34. I have been told I don't really look it, not that it really matters, because I think the people that told me that were just being nice. I have also been called a big teddy bear, and I am not exactly thrilled about that, but what are you going to do.

It has been six years since I have been in a real relationship, (basically meaning something where I actually had sex with another person). It's not like I am hideous, or wierd, I just don't really see the need to have sex unless I feel a connection with another person, and I have not for a long time. It will come up later, but every woman I have ever been in a real relationship with has been older than me.

Recently though, there is a woman I work with, she just turned 18, and she has been following me around ever since she started...

Ladies...help me help my friend...He needs advice please...

feeds@kickapps.com (fancynancy46) — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 21:28:25 PST

I will try to give you the reader's digest version...basically he treated his wife badly by taking her for granted..they were married 11 years...she left him about 6 months ago and filed for divorce 2 weeks from the time she left. she stayed with her parents at first because her father was sick...Her father died about 2 months ago and right after that she moved in with this other guy. She keeps texting her soon to be ex husband and wants to know if he is dating anyone.... she checks his emails and deletes what she wants...he really wants to make things right with her...he knows he screwed up and now he really misses what he had...she keeps questioning him about if he's dating etc....who is this and that etc...so here's the problem..about the time he is ready to give up...she tells him that as soon as the divorce is done..which will be the first of next month...she said she wants to start over with a clean slate...why does she...

Fairly new relationship advice.

feeds@kickapps.com (Ciliatus) — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 13:41:44 PST

Alright, here's the scoop. I've been in a relationship with what I consider a really cool woman for the last 3 months. We hit it off really well and I'm enjoying myself a lot. Here's the problem. She's still really good friends with her ex, which normally wouldn't really be an issue for me except for these circumstances. Apparently they've been friends for a long time and "tried out" a relationship which (according to her) lasted about 3 months and she realized that she really had no romantic interest in him. He's still close with her group of friends and we end up seeing him a lot in social groups. Again, not a problem normally. But here's the problem.... I think he still has feelings for her. First off, they only broke it off (again, from what she's told me) about a week before I met her. While he lives a fair distance from her apartment, he'll sometimes stop by to hang out both with her and her neighbors. Granted,...

Torn and Broken...

feeds@kickapps.com (Paul82) — Wed, 06 May 2009 08:33:07 PST

Well this is my first time posting in this type of forums anywhere and I just needed help in clearing my head as I am not thinking clearly now.

The story begins like this I am a 27 year old single man. I never had relationships in my life before. I own my own business, several cars and a house.

Back then I was 25 and happy with myself and my life with no worries whatsoever. As it turns out, I realize I was approaching 30 soon and thus due to my childhood decided to try to look for a relationship and open my cold heart.

So it was December in 2007 and my friend told me to attend a Convention at a shopping complex in town. And there I laid my eyes on a girl. It didn't strike to me as much then. She was a normal girl with a face of a broken smile. Then I learned these people who organize the conventions were part of a community and I decided to join them to perhaps get to know great new friends.

As it turns out I met this girl again and we...

At Wits End

feeds@kickapps.com (meiosis) — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 23:48:00 PST

I have been with my current girlfriend for eight months. We are both in college and we've been going through a rough patch lately. About a month ago, she told me that she wanted me to give up #++%. I willfully agreed (it's not been easy) and have not seen the stuff since. I feel as if our sexual relationship is suffering. We've done some things before but not intercourse. We are almost opposites, I want @++% sex breakfast, lunch and dinner and she would be ok if we didn't do anything at all. We started to meet each other somewhere in the middle on the issue but now without #++%, not have @++% sex is magnified.

Long story..Pain involved..

feeds@kickapps.com (mediums) — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 21:42:05 PST

Well how do I start, Im 19 and well just about 3 months ago I met this girl at the club and we talked and stuff, exchanged numbers the usual stuff but somehow at that very moment I felt a connection with her and for about 3 days I didn't even call her because I wasn't sure what to expect if we ever were together. I ended up calling her and we saw each other for the first time and it was great, the first month was just great even her feelings for me were really strong, now here's the messy part, before we started anything she asked me how old I was and I was honest with her and told her I was 19, she on the other hand was 24. I thought that it wouldn't effect the relationship much later on but I was wrong.

Anyways, the first month was great we were now in a relationship, another bad side that came to light later on was that she had to work outside the country as she is a stewardess. So after 1 month she was far away and she came online and said that she...

This girl has a boyfriend but keeps calling me?

feeds@kickapps.com (ammubition) — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 21:55:52 PST

I am in college - I knew her as a freshman and really wanted a better chance to meet her which I didn't get until after she got a boyfriend. I really like her but it hurts too much to hang out with her because of it, so I've been trying to avoid her calls or not answering her calls/coming up with excuses -

I have told her to her face 5 times that I won't do things with her since she has a boyfriend, but she keeps on calling me! Recently she got her boyfriend to confront me and say "hey im ok with you hanging out with my girlfriend." Am I doing the right thing?? I don't think I have a choice and she needs to realize it.

i knew better and still made all the mistakes now how do i undo it?!!

feeds@kickapps.com (aje66) — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 15:32:56 PST

i met this guy and tried to let him know i was single and interested.then i finally phoned him and told him.we talked a couple times and i went to his house a week later.we got drunk and slept together.he seemed interested then backed off and then started to seem interested again.then he stood me up and i left him a message that it was rude.he never called back and i left more messages and started apologizing.havent heard from him since.now what do i do?ive never been attracted to a guy so much since i was 16!im 42 now and running out of time to find a husband