HI GUYS. THIS IS REALLY PAINFUL FOR ME SINCE I AM IN LOVE WITH A GUY WHO SAYS HE IS SEPERATED. WELL HE IS HAS BROUGHT LOVE BACK TO MY LIFE. HE HAS GIVEN ME A REASON TO SHARE MY SMILE.WE MET 4 MONTHS AGOAND I FELL FOR HIM INSTANLY. WELL HE IS LEGALLY MARRIED. HE TOLD ME HE IS SEPERATED. HE SAYS HIS WIFE DONT LIVE IN THE SAME HOUSE. BUT HER THINGS ARE THERE BY THAT I MEAN CLOTHES NOT MUCH BUT SOME. HE SAYS SHE COMES OVER TO DO HER LAUNDRY. SHE CANT DRIVE SO HE TAKES HER SHOPPING. HE WANTS ME TO LIVE IN A FANTASY WORLD THAT ONE DAY THINGS WILL GET BETTER. I MEAN I SEE HIM ANYTIME I WANT. BUT I AM YOUNG AND I WOULD LIKE TO GET MARRIED NOT JUST WAIT IN VAIN ON A MAN WHO IS NOT GOING TO BE SINGLE. WHAT DO YOU GUYS MAKE OF THIS HE IS ASKING ME TO BE PATIENT GIVE ME UR ADVISE PLEASE
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WHAT DOES SEPERATED REALLY MEAN
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 NIKKI4LIFE |
WHAT DOES SEPERATED REALLY MEAN |
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Posts: 35 (Aug 27, 2006 21:03:26) |
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halcyondreams |
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Posts: 94 (Aug 28, 2006 20:34:05) |
Hey there. Sorry but I think it's unfortunate that you are already in love with him because my only advice is to pull back and distance yourself from him, and the relationship.
If you show him that you're still going to be there for him, fully available to him, in love with him, while he's still 'involved' with his wife - why would he change anything and commit to you 100%? He might just continue this situation for as long as you're gonna be around cause it suits him just fine? But life is complicated and divorces are messy so he probably needs to work out some issues before he can go into another full time relationship with you. In the meantime, analyse your feelings for him - you probably have a crazy whirlwind of emotions - break it down. Is it love or just romance? Why do u love him? Is he your soulmate? Or is it because it's been a long time since you felt this way or met someone like him? If yes it doesn't necessarily mean he's the right man for you. What do you think you deserve from your ideal man? And do you think u deserve it now, or later? Keep us updated and good luck.. |
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yep move one | ||
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Posts: 0 (Jul 11, 2007 15:47:54) |
quicker the better ..I spent 7 years with the love of my life , while she continued to stay 'separated'. you have pain in your future , so you may as well get it done now..
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kikigrant |
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Posts: 1 (Aug 7, 2007 00:18:48) |
I lived with a man for over a year. I knew he was having problems in his marriage. They filed for divorce 3 months after he moved in with me. right after their first meeting of the lawyers, she decided she was NOT going to pay another $5000 for her lawyer, so she withdrew the divorce and he moved back in with her.
When he left my house, I told him it was over. No more sex, no more crying on my shoulder. He agreed. We remained friends. Well, friends until a month later when I couldn't stand it anymore! I'm bad, I know it. He still tells me he loves me, that if he COULD leave his wife he would. RIGHT! With him what it comes down to is money and toys. He doesn't want to lose everything he worked so hard for before he retired. He knows once he loses it, he'll never get it back. He worked for over 15 years straight....overtime, no days off and no vacation just to build his dreamhouse. I will never have him. I know it. But for some reason I just can't let go. He gets on my nerves. Calls me every few hours. Gets jealous when Im out with friends. I too need to move on! |
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wobblyA |
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Posts: 1 (Aug 13, 2007 09:48:09) |
separated means STILL married
RED FLAG KEEP YOUR DISTANCE protect yourself from stuupid by being smart Wobbly |
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soyla esposa |
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Posts: 2 (Sep 14, 2007 08:02:37) |
Wow I feel your pain. My only advice is that you do not limit your life and options for someone who is giving you so little in return.
You say you are young and want a family and H of your own. That is natural everyone does. But do you want to wait forever on 'maybe someday' and do you want this man? Take care. |
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Gia14 |
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Posts: 1 (Sep 18, 2008 22:32:47) |
If he is planing on a divorce that is one thing,But the way this sounds is not healthy for you..
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