I know you feel sad and empty but I see this break-up as a positive thing.

I think this "He's married or otherwise involved" isn't a good section to have, because under no circumstances is it right/acceptable/okay to date or sleep with a man who already has a wife or girlfriend. Don't you believe in karma, or even the general philosophy that "everything that goes around, comes around"?? When you do fall in love, find a long term partner, or get married, how would you feel if your man were to have affairs, chase other women, etc? You'd be devastated. You can't say "oh it won't happen to me" because I'm sure these women think the same exact thing about the man you're having an affair with.

The thing that a lot of people are guilty of (myself included sometimes) is only think of "ME, ME, ME". You might be thinking "oh what about me?! I won't be getting his attention/love anymore, that's not fair on me etc" but what about other people you're hurting, what about principles of right and wrong?!?

Perhaps it was just a good lesson - he was obviously unhappy in his marriage, that's why he looked for affection elsewhere, and you also had huge changes and negative experiences in your life - so you two were right for each other for a short time. I think it's good that it's ending now, because if you continue this, you're sending the wrong message to the universe about who you are, what you're worth, etc.

That's fair enough that you're unhappy with your current man, he's not what you're looking for and not good enough for you. It doesn't mean that this married man is the solution. Communicate with this new man - tell him what you want in a man, etc, maybe something can be done.

Sorry to be harsh, but be positive, love yourself first and don't get too down....

Hey, I've been there...in many ways, I AM there!! What I think is happening (my opinion only) is that you are spiritually and emotionally empty at the moment, and you're looking for the man and the marriage to fill this void, and rescue you - I'm sure you've been told before, but this isn't a good position to be in, to go searching for your husband. No one can solve your problems for you, and it's not good to be dependent on someone else for your financial and emotional needs
I myself have started to sort my life out very slowly, and this means just being positive and expecting the best instead of the worst and I've noticed that my friends are treating me better, and I'm attracting nicer, better quality guys

You should try it....

It's your choice to start sleeping with him again, but no more complaining from you about how this married man only giving you part-time love and not appreciating you etc - you know exactly what you're getting into and you know it's wrong.