I was dating man who promised me he would get a divorce, but the only stipulation is that I have to continue our intimate relationship and be faithful.
I know it sounds dumb, but the reason is so that he believes I really want to be with him. Also I would have to move into an apartment or house with him before we get married to each other.
I suggested that he get divorced, then we continue dating, and after some time decide if we want to get married. He says at his age, he is almost 50, he has a lot to lose if I do not marry him or give him a definite commitment that I would marry him. I asked him how can he live a life in fear like that, and all he could say is that when you are older people take advantage of you and manipulate you.
I stopped seeing him because I do not want to go about this his way, it feels way too bad. He wants me to come back. I said only if he gets a divorce. He said he would if I give him a marriage committment. I said I could not because we need to be able to date openly and in front of the whole world, not in hiding, to really know if we want to be with each other.
Why do men who are in rotting marriages (like this guy's) get so afraid of being out there on their own? Why not just get up get a divorce and look for a better life, especially if your spouse has said she is done with you and is only there so she can keep her honor as a married woman?
BebeG
I know it sounds dumb, but the reason is so that he believes I really want to be with him. Also I would have to move into an apartment or house with him before we get married to each other.
I suggested that he get divorced, then we continue dating, and after some time decide if we want to get married. He says at his age, he is almost 50, he has a lot to lose if I do not marry him or give him a definite commitment that I would marry him. I asked him how can he live a life in fear like that, and all he could say is that when you are older people take advantage of you and manipulate you.
I stopped seeing him because I do not want to go about this his way, it feels way too bad. He wants me to come back. I said only if he gets a divorce. He said he would if I give him a marriage committment. I said I could not because we need to be able to date openly and in front of the whole world, not in hiding, to really know if we want to be with each other.
Why do men who are in rotting marriages (like this guy's) get so afraid of being out there on their own? Why not just get up get a divorce and look for a better life, especially if your spouse has said she is done with you and is only there so she can keep her honor as a married woman?
BebeG
