I need to be filled in on the reasons a woman that has been so well taken care of, could harbor so much anger and violence, and make THAT the reason there are issues in the relationship. I have taken emotional and physical abuse, beyond the point of being smart, and we have now seperated for the 20th time. It's done, but I want someone to shed some light on what I need to do to release the want for it to get better. I am a glutton for this kind of punishment it seems. Always the giver, hardly ever recieving. I have been with this woman for 2 yrs, we had one of those magical connections. The world was ours. I gave her all of the love and caring I have to give, probably more because I never was in a relationship before that I felt was going to be the last. This one was it. To me. I gave openly to all of her family, helped her children get on their feet, gave them jobs, homes at family priced rent. I moved her sister closer to her so they could be together, and have been abused by all. The kids trashed my houses, left owing me lots of money, one kid punched me in the head cuz I gave him 90 days notice that I was selling the house. The sister jumped on my head, for the same reason (different house tho). On top of all of that, now the woman I loved so much treats me with no respect at all. I am a believer that anything can be fixed and nothing is worth argueing over. My woman tells me that it's ok for her to go out with her single friends,even to bars, She'll tell me she's going somewhere and never even goes, comes home 4 hrs later with no expanation as to why or where she was. She is now on the 4th phone that I bought and pay the bill for. She broke the other 3. She now has a password on her messages, so I can't hear them. Sometimes she is the nicest person and she can come home and out of the blue it's like she's someone else. Someone with a vandetta against me. I feel that all the evidence leads to someone else taking away what was once mine. All the good. She has been brutally abusive emotionally and now phisically also. I have broken myself down so far now I know that who she looks at and sees is not the man that she loved at the start. I am a good man, a good provider, commited wholly to this relationship, I have done all I can it seems to find out and fix whatever was making her upset. By her own admission I have done nothing to deserve this treatment. I asked her to marry me a yr ago, we had been together a yr. She gave me the ring back, we made up, I asked her again, we fought, she gave it back, we made up, I asked again, I now have it back for the last time. I know, I am stupid. I know I was made an azz. She never talks to me or lets me put anything on the table to work on, she is in denial of any wrong doing on her part. She even has gone so far as to say she has never hit me, that she hates violence, tho I have pictures and bruises still. I would never hurt a woman, I have had to hold her wrists so she would stop hitting me tho. Thats how I got bitten. I have written such deep things to her, because she wont talk to me,to try to let her see my love, always wanting to see hers in return. If it happens, it only does for a day or so, and right back to my life of fear for the next time. Tell me, we are both sick, huh?