I have been dating this guy for about 4 months now. Great guy, love everything about him for the most part. No guy is perfect ;o) We met on Match actually, which was new for me. We went on a couple dates, things moved pretty quickly, but we both seemed to enjoy each others company and have a great time together. Out of the blue, his ex-girlfriend called. He basically put the brakes on with us, and started talking to her again. However, he kept coming back to me after a few days. I know I should have ended this act with him the first time, but I kept accepting him back. After the third time he did it, I told him I was done and this is the last time. He was accepting of this and said it was over with his ex. That was two months ago. We have been fine since.
Lately I started smoking again, I hadn't since college, but with all this stress with him and our relationship, I picked it up again. He didn't know I smoked, or have been. He asked me about it once right after we got back together the last time, but I denied it.
He asked me again yesterday, I admitted it. He said he was ok, he hates smoking, but just give him the night to think about everything and he will be fine.
I spoke with him today, he seems fine, and trying to act fine, but a women's instinct is kicking in and I can sense something is still wrong. It's almost like I have the feeling he is preparing me for a breakup again. For example, I bought a motorcycle a few weeks back. I don't really know how to ride yet, but learning. My boyfriend has been helping me learn, and rode it down to the shop for me. Now he is acting funny about the whole bike thing today. He is antsy on picking the bike up, and for me to take my motorcycle course so I get me license. I feel like he is pushing to do all this, so him obligation to help me is no longer needed. I don't know what the next move is. I didn't want to hide anything from him, I was just embarrassed about my gross habit. I told him I am gonna kick it, which I will. It seems he is more upset about the hiding thing then the smoking thing though.
Any advice?