Ok, here is the deal.
I am a 34 year old man. I still think of myself as that 15 year old idiot that I was 19 years ago, but the fact of the matter is I am 34. I have been told I don't really look it, not that it really matters, because I think the people that told me that were just being nice. I have also been called a big teddy bear, and I am not exactly thrilled about that, but what are you going to do.
It has been six years since I have been in a real relationship, (basically meaning something where I actually had sex with another person). It's not like I am hideous, or wierd, I just don't really see the need to have sex unless I feel a connection with another person, and I have not for a long time. It will come up later, but every woman I have ever been in a real relationship with has been older than me.
Recently though, there is a woman I work with, she just turned 18, and she has been following me around ever since she started where we work. I am nice to her, I am nice to everyone, and I think that is why she follows me around. Honestly, the first six months she worked with me, i didn't know her name, not because she never told me, but because I didn't really care. She was, and really is, a child.
But the more I talk to her, the more I realize that we have so much in common. We work with the same people so we do group stuff together, like go to the same parties, go to movies with everyone we work with, and stuff. Every time we do this stuff, she finds me and sits next to me, or follows me around the whole time. It is becoming harder and harder to remember she is so much younger than me.
But she is sending mixed signals. She is dating someone closer to her age. She started dating him before she turned 18, and shortly after she turned 18 she told me she has more fun with me than she does with him, but that was a couple months ago. Since then she has told me that her and her boyfriend have taken the relationship to the physical level.
I don't know what to do, I need one of two kinds of advice: One, I need advice getting her out of my head. I can't seem to stop thinking of her, she is constantly on my mind, I think of her first thing in the morning when I wake up, and she is the last thing on my mind in the evening when I go to bed, and every other thought in between is about her. I can't be doing that, it is driving me crazy, I need to stop thinking about her because it is cutting into my life, I am not nearly as happy as I was before I knew her, and I tend to snap at my friends a lot more now. I am a nice guy, this is really hurting me socially.
I either need that kind of advice, or I need advice on what to do to get her away from her boyfriend and with me. She is going to college to do the same job I am doing, and we could easily end up in the same career living in the same area. Her boyfriend on the other hand won't end up doing anything like her, and isn't really interested in the stuff she and I are. He is pretty spineless though, and he does anything she tells him to do, and she is ashamed to introduce him to her friends, and the rest of us at work. Beyond that he is creepy as hell. He did all this stuff online to try to bring them closer, for example: on facebook, he switched his relationship status to engaged, then when she got mad at him, he said he had a hacker break into his account and change it, then when he added her name to his relationship status, she was ok with it, but it was the day after she tried to break up with him, but she didn't have the heart when he started to cry, he blamed that too on the hacker. Then a mutual friend tried to offer his help on getting rid of the hacker, he refused help saying he was being careful and wouldn't let anyone near his computer.
I have no idea what to do. But I need to do something quickly.
I am a 34 year old man. I still think of myself as that 15 year old idiot that I was 19 years ago, but the fact of the matter is I am 34. I have been told I don't really look it, not that it really matters, because I think the people that told me that were just being nice. I have also been called a big teddy bear, and I am not exactly thrilled about that, but what are you going to do.
It has been six years since I have been in a real relationship, (basically meaning something where I actually had sex with another person). It's not like I am hideous, or wierd, I just don't really see the need to have sex unless I feel a connection with another person, and I have not for a long time. It will come up later, but every woman I have ever been in a real relationship with has been older than me.
Recently though, there is a woman I work with, she just turned 18, and she has been following me around ever since she started where we work. I am nice to her, I am nice to everyone, and I think that is why she follows me around. Honestly, the first six months she worked with me, i didn't know her name, not because she never told me, but because I didn't really care. She was, and really is, a child.
But the more I talk to her, the more I realize that we have so much in common. We work with the same people so we do group stuff together, like go to the same parties, go to movies with everyone we work with, and stuff. Every time we do this stuff, she finds me and sits next to me, or follows me around the whole time. It is becoming harder and harder to remember she is so much younger than me.
But she is sending mixed signals. She is dating someone closer to her age. She started dating him before she turned 18, and shortly after she turned 18 she told me she has more fun with me than she does with him, but that was a couple months ago. Since then she has told me that her and her boyfriend have taken the relationship to the physical level.
I don't know what to do, I need one of two kinds of advice: One, I need advice getting her out of my head. I can't seem to stop thinking of her, she is constantly on my mind, I think of her first thing in the morning when I wake up, and she is the last thing on my mind in the evening when I go to bed, and every other thought in between is about her. I can't be doing that, it is driving me crazy, I need to stop thinking about her because it is cutting into my life, I am not nearly as happy as I was before I knew her, and I tend to snap at my friends a lot more now. I am a nice guy, this is really hurting me socially.
I either need that kind of advice, or I need advice on what to do to get her away from her boyfriend and with me. She is going to college to do the same job I am doing, and we could easily end up in the same career living in the same area. Her boyfriend on the other hand won't end up doing anything like her, and isn't really interested in the stuff she and I are. He is pretty spineless though, and he does anything she tells him to do, and she is ashamed to introduce him to her friends, and the rest of us at work. Beyond that he is creepy as hell. He did all this stuff online to try to bring them closer, for example: on facebook, he switched his relationship status to engaged, then when she got mad at him, he said he had a hacker break into his account and change it, then when he added her name to his relationship status, she was ok with it, but it was the day after she tried to break up with him, but she didn't have the heart when he started to cry, he blamed that too on the hacker. Then a mutual friend tried to offer his help on getting rid of the hacker, he refused help saying he was being careful and wouldn't let anyone near his computer.
I have no idea what to do. But I need to do something quickly.
