My boyfriend and I have been arguing a lot lately. It seems that we mostly argue about the way that we argue, and we're constantly discussing how we should act/react the next time. Like tonight, I got a little down because we had a small discussion about something and he told me that I never let him talk. I was fine after the conversation for awhile and then I started to think about his words. Almost every time we argue he uses the words "never" or "always" or "every time", and I started to feel down because if he really believes that I "never do this" or "always do that", then maybe he shouldn't want to be with someone like me right? So I simply went to him and asked him if I could ask him something. He said yes and we sat down and I told him that when he uses these words so often they stick in my head and I hear them over and over and it starts to make me feel like I"m just not good enough for him. So I asked him if he really believes these things he says, because if he does then maybe he shouldn't want to be with me, and if he doesn't believe these things he says, then to please stop saying them all the time. He got very frustrated with me and acted as though I was attacking him. What did I do wrong?

I know that I am a great person and that I am good to him in so many ways, but my esteem takes a hit whenever he tells me these things and I don't know how many more times I can self-talk myself into remembering that I am in fact good enough.

Was it wrong of me to ask him to stop doing this?